“Sin is sin.”
– Christian Minimizing Adultery
This is a saying that cheater apologists use to guilt faithful spouses into taking back their cheater. It is a minimization of adultery.
Saying, “Sin is sin” is as stupid as saying, “A crime is a crime” then suggesting we should put speeders on the electric chair just like convicted murderers.
My point is not to engage in a debate over the death penalty. My point is that people with commonsense understand justice requires a gradation of punishments for different crimes.
The same goes for sins.
Speeding and premeditated murder both are crimes. The speeder and the murderer are in the same category as law-breakers.
But we would consider a society grossly unjust (and cruel) for applying the same punishment to both the speeder and the murderer.
Like all good lies, Satan seeds a little truth about being in a common category with the lie that we ought to treat everyone in that category the same.
My God is just. He sees through this lie. God does not treat sinners unjustly.
A person who believes in justice and a just God does not trade in this saying. They do not use it to minimize the trauma inflicted by the double life of a cheater.
If humans can spot this as unjust, trust me, God can (and does) as well!
I have heard from other Christians things like,
everyone is a sinner and Jesus came to offer forgivness to everyone so we must also forgive because none of us are without sin.
You should not judge because you yourself are not perfect.
He made a mistake and God says you must forgive but not forget (I said it wasn’t a mistake it was a series of choices. They said have you never made a bad choice?. I said not one that is quite as devastating as this.
Someone even tried to minimise someone cheating whilst their wife is pregnant (which I was). They tried to excuse it by saying it’s a vulnerable time and you can see how that might be a factor. I would agree that it was a very vulnerable time for me, having to do the 2nd half of my pregnancy alone, whilst my unrepentant cheating husband leaves me and our DS 21/2 to be with his OW.
I’m sorry for all your pain and suffering It is traumatically devastating to be so brutally betrayed & violated. Those “friends of Job” have no idea what they’re talking about. They excuse the adulterer for breaking covenant with God and spouse plus abandoning the family and forcing children into a position that provokes them towards sin. While telling the betrayed spouse
who is in the depths of despair that they are a jealous, bitter person who wants the adulterer to pay for their sin when Christ already paid the price for us all.
That does not sound anything like what the faithful spouse is experiencing or what Jesus said about adulterers choices in my Bible. I believe he says they are worse than an imbecile/unbeliever, their spouse (who should be comforted) is free to divorce them, and that heaven has no room for them if they do not forsake their sin and repent.
It sounds to me like adulterers should be the ones fearing God and trembling in their boots. Not following through with their sin with the support of Church and Christian friends.
“Sin is sin”.
All sin is wrong (true), therefore all sin is equal in evil (false)… is very harmful to victims, but it is oh so comforting to really wicked people like abusers and adulterers.
Why is sin leveling considered biblical? It shouldn’t be. The Lord Jesus Christ made distinctions in the level of sin and the ensuing weightiness of the final judgment against it.
Matthew 23:14 (NKJV)
“Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you devour widows’ houses, and for a pretense make long prayers. Therefore you will receive greater condemnation.”
Matthew 18:6 (NKJV)
“Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to sin, it would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck, and he were drowned in the depth of the sea.”