“Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live!”

-Deuteronomy 30:19, NLT

Choices, choices, and cheater choices!

The thing with cheaters is how they try to avoid the obvious matter that they made choices–poor ones. If they accept this fact, then they have to accept blame and be accountable.

Cheaters do not like being held accountable for their sinful choices.

They might go to pastoral care sessions or therapy sessions to complain about their marriage or partner. The purpose of such attendance can both be to distract others from their sinful behavior and to “justify” their plan to sinfully discard their spouse. Some even passive aggressively use those sessions to punish their spouse emotionally. It is sick.

However, all would better be served by coming back to seeing the choices made.

Honestly, it matters not how awful your spouse is or how miserable your marriage is. The choice to cheat is still a choice. There is no godly justification in making that choice.

Yet somewhere along the way, Cheaters told themselves that they were entitled to cheat. They “justified” the unjustifiable. Now, they want others to agree with the lie. The last thing they want is the cold hard truth that they made sinful choices.

Cheating is sin. God does not permit or encourage us to sin. Ever.

 

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*A version of this post ran previously.