Today is a negative anniversary. And a positive one retrospectively.
Six years ago to this day, I received a message from my divorce lawyer notifying me that my marriage to my first wife was officially and legally ended. I was officially single (and divorced).
Each anniversary, the pain has been less and less. Some years, I have forgotten the date.
This year I remembered, but it is not particularly sad to me. It is more of a historical notation than anything. Yes, that happened to me on this day six years ago.
I am sure I will (and do) have my grief-flashback moments. But this day was not one for me. I am thankful for that.
It helps that my life has dramatically improved since that day. I have a fulfilling career doing meaningful work for God’s glory; plus, I have rebuilt my family life, which now includes an amazing partner and a wonderful daughter.
My advice to those staring down their own “negative” anniversary is to get busy building a new life. Discover what you enjoy as in hobbies and activities.
Where do you find yourself basking in God’s love and pleasure over you? Go to that place.
I truly believe one day that you, too, will experience this anniversary as just a historical matter as I did today. It does get better.
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