You belong to your father, the devil…. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies.
-John 8:44a, c, NIV
SO MANY LIES!
You cannot cheat, I believe, without lying. The Cheater is lying to others besides their partner. Plus, I believe they start by lying to themselves to enable them to behave in such a treacherous way.
That is one of the saddest things about cheating:
I think God eventually gives the Cheater over to the lies they chose to believe. They don’t repent, because they are so convinced by the lies about their sins:
“I deserve this.”
“If she only gave me more sex, I wouldn’t have to do this.”
“At least someone is paying attention to me. If he was a better husband, I wouldn’t have to look elsewhere.”
“God would want me to be happy.”
Cheaters are often fully convinced by these lies. They see themselves as the victim as opposed to the perpetrator in violating the marriage vows. The lies enable that distorted thinking and entrap them.
Plus, the sheer volume of lies is insane!
One of the major losses faithful spouses experience is the loss of a reality or history. We simply do not know what was actually true in our past due to Cheater’s pathological lying.
So, the lying both imprisons the Cheater and steals from the faithful spouse at the same time. They are SO destructive!
Some Cheaters lie for months and years. They live a double life and would happily continue doing so without any care for the faithful spouse. Such a double life requires mountains of lies.
