“Don’t do anything rash,” insists pastor to faithful spouse upon the cheating discovery.
Now, I agree to some degree with this advice. The problem is how it is applied.
What “rash” means here matters.
Often times, the pastor saying this is trying to “save” the marriage. They say this to dissuade a faithful spouse from taking important (and arguably lifesaving) steps towards divorce.
In my mind, “rash” would cover doing criminal things or things that would undermine one’s future success:
-Revenge sex is a “rash” thing.
-Beating up the affair partner is “rash.”
-Getting high is “rash.”
I would strongly discourage doing any of those things. In that sense, please do NOT do anything “rash.” That said, I think pursuing a divorce in light of the infidelity is not the same thing.
Seeing a divorce lawyer to explore your options is NOT rash!
This is exploring your options. It is using your righteous anger in a healthy way. I would encourage this, actually.
