Cheaters are “gifted” in sucking you back into their chaos.
If you spent years allowing your Cheater to do what they wanted, it is hard to change that dynamic. It is difficult to stand up for oneself and hold to appropriate boundaries.
They will test your boundaries. It is what they do.
For example, you might be done talking about your relationship as long as your Cheater refuses to stop cheating and to take full responsibility for it. This is a VERY appropriate boundary. However, Cheaters don’t like boundaries.
So, they will test it.
They might attempt to shame you and blame you for all of their misery. Maybe they will throw in some rage if you dare point out that they are still cheating? How dare you attempt to hold them accountable?
Don’t get sucked back into that chaos.
Hold to your boundary.
Walk away. Hang up the phone.
If you don’t, that is okay. None of us are perfect. Next time, you can! It is hard to shutdown these games when Cheater is pushing your buttons. But you don’t need that drama or further emotional trauma.
