When a cheater is told “No,” they will likely get angry.
They may even engage in a toddler tantrum. That is about their maturity level after all.
An important lesson for faithful spouses to learn is how we are not responsible for how our cheater feels. We are responsible for our own emotions and actions (see 2 Corinthians 5:10).
If you are a Christian husband, you are NOT responsible for your cheater wife feeling “unhappy.”
If you are a Christian wife, you are NOT responsible for your cheater husband feeling “angry.”
The obvious caveat to these two statements is if we have done something to directly harm our spouse (like cheating on them). Then we are responsible for harming our spouse.
They may rightfully be unhappy and angry with us for sinning against them. But having a boundary and enforcing it is not sinning.
Cheaters regularly throw tantrums and exhibit “unhappy” feelings over silly, non-sin things like the faithful spouse refusing to lie for them about their cheating.
Remember:
Faithful spouse, your (ex) spouse’s feelings are not your responsibility. You are allowed to think for yourself and say, “No.”
Do not allow a cheater tantrum or enabling “Christian” leaders persuade you otherwise.
