“Telling would hurt his reputation,” says Cheater Apologist.
No, what has harmed his reputation is behaving in a harmful way. People knowing about it is just revealing his TRUE reputation.
Faithful spouses are often too hesitant to speak the ugly truth about their cheater. They worry that they would be wrong to say out loud what has been happening to them.
I want to encourage you to find people who will support you during this time. Part of that support is letting them know the truth.
Will that be damaging to the cheater’s reputation? Probably.
People tend take a negative view of people who live double lives and harm people they love. It is not their knowing that is the problem, though. The problem was the cheating and lying.
Again, people knowing about the cheating is allowing people to see his true reputation. It is a breaking free of his ongoing deceptions.
If a cheater wants to have a good reputation, they should have behaved better!
You are the only minister online taking the correct stance on this. I’m about 8 years out of a divorce to a bat-sh!t crazy cheating ex wife who filed for divorce and couldn’t get one. She smeared my name, accused me of unspeakable things and got primary custody of our kids. Because she filed with unclean hands, I was awarded the house and she got no alimony. I got no support from church but was told Satan had a foothold in my life.
She lives in the richest part of town and don’t have a full time job, and puts on a good show at church. I live paycheck to paycheck.
I’m convinced there will be no justice for me this side of heaven. Even though we have shared legal custody, she uses her primary custody as a weapon to inflict as much pain as possible. And she knows I don’t have the money for any more lawyers. I spent upwards of $20,000 trying to gain custody before I ran out of money.
But I do know who my Savior is. Jesus Christ my hope – only hope out of this hell on earth that I live in.
Thank you for your ministry