I can distinctly remember driving down a major highway back home wishing the pain to end.

Part of me knew there was no going back to how things “were.” I still missed the fantasy, though. The ending of my marriage came with tremendous losses; this I knew in the deepest of places.

I just wanted the pain to stop.

The danger of the fantasy “reconciliation” is in the title: fantasy. This is not reality. It is an escapism.

Now, I do think it is normal to consider such a fantasy. Who doesn’t want the pain to end?

The reality is what once was can never be again.

And perhaps, it never “once was” as we thought. Cheaters too often live double lives for months and even years!

Health begins when we are brave enough (and have support enough) to face the tough reality.

From the solid ground of truth, we can rebuild our lives into a solid and beautiful edifice. This is something I have experienced as well. So, I give you that as hope for you as well.