“Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”
-John 8:32, NIV
Regardless of how we feel or what other people–including professionals–say, we did not “make” them cheat and thereby abuse us.
This is an important truth to hold on to through this dark season. We are not responsible for another’s sins (see 2 Cor. 5:10). We own ours, and they own theirs.
Hold onto that truth like a dog and his bone!
I think it is key to remaining sane during this maddening time. It is a confusing time already, and we need truth more than anything during this time filled with lie discovery.
The truth that we did NOT author our adulterous abuse in anyway is such an important to truth to remember.
Cheating is not caused by being a bad spouse. Cheating is not caused by poor communication styles. Cheating is not caused by infrequent sex in the marriage.
Cheating is caused by a spouse deciding to give into the temptation to sin already present in their wicked heart (see James 1).
-Refuse to take the blame.
-Refuse to allow them to shift the blame onto the “marriage.”
-Refuse to let go of the truth that you did not make them–in any way–to cheat on you!
