When you made it to a counselor or pastor’s office, did your cheater take full responsibility or point fingers at you?
I bet it was the later.
Some pastors are naive enough (or complicit enough) to take the bait. They follow the finger of the cheater and focus on those “issues” to the exclusion of dealing with the marriage ending infidelity.
The resources wasted in these meetings is incredible. Cheaters aren’t there to fix the marriage. They are there to manage their own image.
It looks better to appear to have “tried” than to expose the truth–namely, they were already gone.
I wish more pastors and Christian counselors would take infidelity as seriously as God does. Instead of taking as an issue among many in the marriage, I wish they would pay head to the fact that God accepts this as the end of the marriage (see Deut 22:22, Mt 19:9).
