If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other.

-Galatians 5:15, NIV

When you tell your denomination or church about your cheating spouse and the divorce, the hope is for support.

Sadly, this hope is often dashed by evangelical leaders who are stuck in ungodly divorce prejudice. They hear the “D” word and assume fault on the part of the divorced pastor. Circumstances–namely being cheated on and abandoned–matter not to these folks.

Thankfully, this is not true of all churches or denominations.

Yet some still remain that will take away the livelihood of a faithful spouse simply because they are divorced from their cheater. I hate to say that this is not uncommon.

Some churches are so terrified of the non-sin of divorce that they are willing to sin against their pastor by discarding him or her because they ended a marriage to a cheater.

I write this blog to be a place where pastors and other faithful spouses can come to find support instead of such betrayal. It exists because I know how rare such support can be in some “Christian” communities.

The double betrayal is yet another feature of divorce from a cheater that needs processing on the healing journey. That said, it can be done.

God has His people all over the place, and I have found those people exist who bring real healing even if I had a bad experience or two with others claiming His Name.