You are so proud of yourselves, but you should be mourning in sorrow and shame. And you should remove this man from your fellowship.
-I Corinthians 5:2, NLT
In my experience, Christians often have too much patience for Cheaters and too little for their victims–i.e. faithful spouses.
Cheaters are given chance after chance to repent. They are never caste out of the fellowship. Anyone who suggests as much is labelled or treated as the enemy and certain “bad” Christian.
On the other hand, faithful spouses–i.e. Cheater victims–are judged quickly to be bitter or unforgiving. No time or very little time is given to grieving. The injustices are often ignored as that would obligate the community or leaders to do something–minimally, to treat the Cheater differently.
This is NOT how things ought to be in God’s body, the Church.
It is inverted. Patience ought to be offered to the victims and accountability to the Cheaters. Instead, many of us experience the opposite with accountability really just being religious judgment.
