23 “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, 24 leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.”
-Matthew 5:23-24, NIV
When a cheater divorces and goes on to remarry, I find it doubtful that they have worked through what they need to do for right relationship with God.
These verses from the mouth of Jesus suggest that a cheater cannot have right relationship with God without having right relationship with another brother or sister believer. The two go hand and hand.
Each lie a cheater spoke is something their spouse or former spouse has against them. Each instance of sexual infidelity is something the faithful party has against them. I doubt that many of us here have ever been offered a full accounting of the cheating and lies from our cheater.
In the absence of such a full accounting or ownership of lies, I fail to see how a cheater can have a right relationship with God.
Ultimately, God with make the decision about a cheater’s soul. I am not saying I know for certain one way or another.
The reason I write this post is some people approach cheaters as if they can “get better” without reference to cleaning up the sinful mess they made of their marriage. I just do not see that as biblical.
A faithful spouse will have a good idea if a cheater is in right relationship with God. Why?
The faithful spouse will have experienced a cheater who is willing to answer any question and take full responsibility for their deceitful, abusive adultery. Without this, I do not see how God will be willing to take any “offering” from the cheater.
I honestly hope my ex wife truly repents. I don’t want to remarry her but want to see her in Heaven. I hope God is more merciful than I can imagine.