One of the hardest things to do is leave a Cheater when they hold financial power over you.
You married under the premise that you’d share the bills and set up a joint household. “What’s yours is mine.” Then you discover the cheating…
Maybe they even hold you in contempt for not bringing in significant money? They treat you as lesser for “only” taking care of the children?
Getting a job that pays well and financial independence is a key part to healing from their cheating abuse. It isn’t easy, though, as many here can attest.
One’s financial dependence on the Cheater creates more terror and anxiety over the marriage ending.
I believe this is part of the reason people stay stuck in marriages to abusive Cheaters. Yet I want to encourage you all that it gets better sans Cheater!
Yes, it is scary to leave (the illusion of) financial security with a Cheater. However, leaving is better than tolerating ongoing abuse from them.
Many a faithful spouse has walked this road before you and found independence from their Cheater. It DOES get better sans Cheater!!!
