You are in no way responsible for what was done for you but…
…you ARE 100% responsible for what you believe about it!
A major part of recovering from marital infidelity is recovering from believing lies about ourselves.
These are lies that the cheater often seeds in our lives while they are working to discard us. In fact, these lies often cause the most lasting damage from the infidelity saga. They cause damage because we struggle to defeat and disbelieve them.
This is not a judgment. The Lord knows I’ve struggled (and struggle) in this area myself.
We defeat the lies with truth. Now, we might not feel the truth to begin with, but we need to grow in speaking and clinging to the truth.
The wonderful thing about being human is each of us has the power to choose what we believe. It is an amazing power!
We do not have to agree with the false narrative that our Cheater spews about us and our marriage. It is in our power NOT to believe the cheater. We do NOT have to accept what the cheater says about us as truth and worthy of belief.
