I am convinced adultery is always abusive. Always.

You cannot cheat on a spouse without abusing their trust minimally. Plus, I have yet to discover a story involving adultery where a period of deception did not take place–however, brief.

In addition to that, I believe based on my reading of Scripture that adultery is soul rape.

Because the married parties are one according to Jesus (see Matthew 19:5), that means means any union with a third party forces that union on the faithful spouse’s soul. It is soul rape.

That is abuse.

So, it drives me nuts how pastors and others in the Christian community will defend the cheater as if what they did was less than abuse?

What possibly could a faithful spouse do “to deserve” such soul-level violation and abuse? Tell me.

I want to know, because my Bible does not tell me anything justifies such wicked behavior. It simply condemns it.

Thou shalt not commit adultery.

-Exodus 20:14, KJV

I think that is pretty simple. There is no–unless your spouse did x–clause there. We need to stop making excuses for abuse. Instead, let us tell abusers to stop damaging others (and themselves).

That is godly instruction.

Anything else is not.

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