“Yeah, I know she cheated on you, but you’ve got issues, too,” says false “friend.”
You need to lose “friends” that respond in this sort of way to your infidelity trauma.
They are not behaving as a friend. In fact, they are making things worse by equating your imperfections with a double-life of lies and general infidelity abuse.
THEY ARE NOT THE SAME!!!
It is imperative for faithful spouses NOT to get stuck in self-introspection during this critical time. They need to get angry at what was done to them so that they take appropriate steps to protect themselves from further harm.
The last thing faithful spouses need in their lives is an abuse apologist as this “friend” is!
A lack of righteous anger from such a “friend” tells you that they do not truly love you. They are in the relationship for other reasons.
Their response is telling you that they have chosen the side of your abuser–i.e. the Cheater. You cannot reason with such a person as they think they already know best.
