So often the church has lost sight of how important lament is. God wants our honesty. And sometimes all we can give God is our tears and protests of pain. The following series of YouTube videos linked below lay out a teaching by the Christian musician, Michael Card, on the topic of lament. It blessed … Continue reading “Excellent Teaching on Lament by Michael Card”
Never divorce stance as idolatry
She saw that I divorced faithless Israel because of her adultery. But that treacherous sister Judah had no fear, and now she, too, has left me and given herself to prostitution. -Jeremiah 3:8, NLT Is the “Never Divorce” stance on marriage really just plain, old idolatry? Now, before I answer this, I want to be … Continue reading “Never divorce stance as idolatry”
Is God doing forgiveness wrong, then?!
Seek the Lord while He may be found, Call upon Him while He is near. Let the wicked forsake his way, And the unrighteous man his thoughts; Let him return to the Lord, And He will have mercy on him; And to our God, For He will abundantly pardon. -Isaiah 55:6-7, NKJV Is God doing this forgiveness thing wrong here? … Continue reading “Is God doing forgiveness wrong, then?!”
Adultery is truly evil!
When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. – I Corinthians 13:11, KJV It is past time the pastors and church leaders wake up and grow up. We live in a world … Continue reading “Adultery is truly evil!”
Blinding Arrogance and Contempt
21 On the appointed day Herod, wearing his royal robes, sat on his throne and delivered a public address to the people. 22 They shouted, “This is the voice of a god, not of a man.” 23 Immediately, because Herod did not give praise to God, an angel of the Lord struck him down, and he was eaten by worms and … Continue reading “Blinding Arrogance and Contempt”
A spouse is NOT just another Option!
24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. 25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. -Genesis 2:24-25, KJV Some Cheaters are so entitled that they treat their spouse as just another option. This entitlement … Continue reading “A spouse is NOT just another Option!”
First Step: Admitting and Owning Wrong
No one who lives in him keeps on sinning. No one who continues to sin has either seen him or known him. -I John 3:6, NIV Does the cheater willingly admit the cheating was sin? Or is the cheating minimized as something less than wrong? Does the cheater try to “justify” the cheating and lying as “not … Continue reading “First Step: Admitting and Owning Wrong”
Vulnerability and terror.
One of the hardest things to do is leave a Cheater when they hold financial power over you. You married under the premise that you’d share the bills and set up a joint household. “What’s yours is mine.” Then you discover the cheating… Maybe they even hold you in contempt for not bringing in significant … Continue reading “Vulnerability and terror.”
Can be one’s sole decision.
It only takes one to end the marriage. So often this fact is missed in the evangelical church. They teach as if both have a say in the marriage ending. That is simply not always the case. Many have experienced the double trauma of being cheated on and then discarded by the cheater. Without knowing … Continue reading “Can be one’s sole decision.”
Strong Medicine Needed!!
Their mother is a shameless prostitute and became pregnant in a shameful way. She said, ‘I’ll run after other lovers and sell myself to them for food and water, for clothing of wool and linen, and for olive oil and drinks.’ -Hosea 2:5, NLT What if those Christian leaders or therapists had provided strong medicine … Continue reading “Strong Medicine Needed!!”