On the day of Pentecost all the believers were meeting together in one place. -Acts 2:1, NLT Holy Spirit played an important role in my recovery story. His gifts saw me through a very, very dark time. I had just discovered the Other Man who was later confirmed to be party to a physical affair … Continue reading “Pentecost: Gifts of Holy Spirit”
That old bitter card
Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many. – Hebrews 12:14-15, NIV I am suspicious of … Continue reading “That old bitter card”
Still blaming
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. -I John 1:9, NIV Instead of confessing, many of our Cheaters will continue to blame us for our marriages’ demise until they die. They do not see their infidelity as relevant to the divorce. … Continue reading “Still blaming”
Marriage was chosen freely.
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV Cheaters freely chose to marry their spouses. This free choice came with the explicit commitment to exclusiveness. That is the usual marriage vow of “forsaking all others.” Now, if … Continue reading “Marriage was chosen freely.”
No “Accidental Muffins”
“There are no ‘accidental muffins.’” I made this statement the other night about affairs. It was in reference to a video on the internet about cheating. The original poster pointed out all the steps needed to cheat and likened it to baking something. A cheater might try to pass their affair off as an accident. … Continue reading “No “Accidental Muffins””
Cheater Backhanded “Admissions”
Fools think their own way is right, but the wise listen to others. -Proverbs 12:15, NLT Sometimes the only thing a cheater might admit to doing wrong is a backhanded admission. What do I mean by “backhanded admission?” “I apologize for not speaking up sooner to tell you how you aren’t meeting my ‘needs.’” “My … Continue reading “Cheater Backhanded “Admissions””
Fruit of a wicked heart
14 Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away. 15 These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death. -James 1:14-15, NLT Fruit of a Wicket Heart Long before the affair happens, it begins in the heart of the Cheater. This is what … Continue reading “Fruit of a wicked heart”
Happy Mother’s Day to you, faithful spouses!
To all the mothers and step-mothers (and spiritual mothers) who are faithful spouses, too: Happy Mother’s Day! You are an amazing person. I hope you take time to celebrate you! It might not seem like it, but “just” being the sane parent is a precious, precious gift that you are giving your children during this … Continue reading “Happy Mother’s Day to you, faithful spouses!”
Excellent Teaching on Lament by Michael Card
So often the church has lost sight of how important lament is. God wants our honesty. And sometimes all we can give God is our tears and protests of pain. The following series of YouTube videos linked below lay out a teaching by the Christian musician, Michael Card, on the topic of lament. It blessed … Continue reading “Excellent Teaching on Lament by Michael Card”
Never divorce stance as idolatry
She saw that I divorced faithless Israel because of her adultery. But that treacherous sister Judah had no fear, and now she, too, has left me and given herself to prostitution. -Jeremiah 3:8, NLT Is the “Never Divorce” stance on marriage really just plain, old idolatry? Now, before I answer this, I want to be … Continue reading “Never divorce stance as idolatry”