God is a just judge, And God is angry with the wicked every day.

-Psalm 7:11, NKJV

Anger is a healthy, godly response to adultery.

I will say  that again:

Anger is a healthy, godly response to adultery.

When we do not feel angry over such injustice and wickedness, something is seriously wrong with our walk with the Lord. He is angry at such sin.

That said, we need to eventually come to a place where we can lay down our anger. If we don’t, it will consume us.

We must NOT lay down our anger too soon, though!

Christians run into this error all the time. They want the anger to go away without facing and dealing with the sins and injustice.

Faithful spouses need the anger to get out of dangerous situations. Anger is a gift from God for us in this.

Once safe, we can start working through that anger. We can hand our feelings of injustice and hurt over to God for Him to handle. In other words, we can start the forgiveness process. This will likely take years. 

What I have found is that the anger subsides eventually.

I am better able to see why I was angry and acknowledge it. By acknowledging it, I am honoring my heart and grieving the real loss. This is important for healing.

Another thing I have found, those people who wronged me matter less and less with time. This, too, helps with letting go of anger.

They become sad stories looking back on my life. Those actors become people who chose poorly and revealed serious character flaws.

All of this takes time (and some work). Plus, I would be more concerned about you if you never felt anger.

My point is to encourage you all that anger does subside eventually. Be kind to yourself–especially when your divorce is fresh. It does get better.

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*A version of this post ran previously.