Beware of Nostalgic Cheaters Around the Holidays

Beware of cheaters trying to suck you into some quality holiday family image management!

As Christians, I think we are especially susceptible to fake remorse around the holidays. We want to avoid the pain of divorce and separation during this especially hard time.

So, we might settle for less than what is good for us. We allow the cheater to use us, again.

The Christian world especially pressures Christians to “play nice” with our exes. Even a small opening for “reconciliation” is taught as a must take for faithful partners (wrongly, IMO).

Don’t fall for the “alligator” tears.

Don’t fall for the faux opening to be their plus one.

Don’t fall for the “for the kids” ploy.

Recognize that you are vulnerable this time of year. It stinks to be single during a season when families and couples are especially celebrated. Make a plan to deal with this.

Realize that a cheater is probably facing the first real consequences of her or his cheating in a way that they do not like. That is probably why they are trying to have you re-enter their picture.

Be respectful. Abide by the court ordered visitation agreement. But you do not have to be buddy-buddy with your unrepentant cheater just because it is the holidays.

That does not make you a bad person.

That does not even make you a bad Christian.

You are simply requiring real repentance of your cheater demonstrated by their actions over time. Trust obliterated by adultery does not rebuild into a warm relationship overnight just because it is Thanksgiving or Christmas time.

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