These last few days I have heard/read stories about Christian counselors who have failed to directly addressed adultery. They have avoided the awkward conversation insisting upon full disclosure or full commitment to rebuilding the marriage from the adulterous spouse. And these individuals have cited various reasons for this. This angers me! I know how it … Continue reading “Please, Faithful Spouses, Find A Christian Advisor With A Backbone!”
Category: Reconciliation
So What If They Do Not Come Back?
Jesus said to him, “If you would be perfect, go, sell what you possess and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow me.” When the young man heard this he went away sorrowful, for he had great possessions. -Mt 19:21-22, ESV Jesus was not afraid to give people … Continue reading “So What If They Do Not Come Back?”
I am NOT FOR the marriage
When Joshua was by Jericho, he lifted up his eyes and looked, and behold, a man was standing before him with his drawn sword in his hand. And Joshua went to him and said to him, “Are you for us, or for our adversaries?” And he said, “No; but I am the commander of the … Continue reading “I am NOT FOR the marriage”
Hanging Over Their Heads Forever?
“Even if she cheats on me, I will forgive her and take her back,” Desperate Husband said. “Well, that’s no marriage. You would just hold that over her head forever,” said Mr. Worldly-Minded. This is a real exchange that I had with someone prior to discovering the irrefutable evidence of my former spouse’s adultery. I … Continue reading “Hanging Over Their Heads Forever?”
We can still be friends, right? Wrong.
“You are my friends if you do what I command.” -Jesus speaking in John 15:14, NIV Friendship is a selective relationship. It is a relationship built on trust and mutual admiration. Not everyone I know is my friend. They need to pass the cut. As we read from this quoted Scripture, Jesus did not call … Continue reading “We can still be friends, right? Wrong.”
PSA: Not Your Mess To Fix
Dear faithful spouse, It is not your job to fix the marriage mess caused by your adulterous spouse’s infidelity. You did not create this mess. And you are not even a little responsible for his/her sin. It flowed out of his/her heart alone as Scripture teaches (see post here). The adultery and subsequent consequences (like … Continue reading “PSA: Not Your Mess To Fix”
Worst Piece of Advice Given
“Contend with your mother, contend, For she is not my wife, and I am not her husband; And let her put away her harlotry from her face And her adultery from between her breasts…“ -Hosea 2:2, NASB While I do not mind the end result–the merciful divorce paving the way to my marriage to Mrs. DM–I am … Continue reading “Worst Piece of Advice Given”
We Don’t Fight Over Traitors
You, Lord God Almighty, you who are the God of Israel, rouse yourself to punish all the nations; show no mercy to wicked traitors. -Psalm 59:5, NIV The most intimate of human trust is violated when a spouse chooses to commit adultery. When two Christians enter a marriage, they publicly confess to forsake all others … Continue reading “We Don’t Fight Over Traitors”
Dear Divorce Minister…Please help me to create some clarity in this mess.
Dear Divorce Minister, I moved to Africa 8 years ago to join my African husband (married 6 yrs, no children). There was no way he would have moved in my direction as he was passionate about his job in Africa. I accepted that and gave up my job, house & country with friends and … Continue reading “Dear Divorce Minister…Please help me to create some clarity in this mess.”
The Christmas Story Instructing Us On Adultery And Divorce
Now the birth of Jesus Christ took place in this way. When his mother Mary had been betrothed to Joseph, before they came together she was found to be with child from the Holy Spirit. And her husband Joseph, being a just man and unwilling to put her to shame, resolved to divorce her quietly. – Matthew … Continue reading “The Christmas Story Instructing Us On Adultery And Divorce”