“I can’t pretend anymore!” declares Cheater. This declaration is usually followed by some sort of blame-shift onto the faithful spouse where Cheater attacks the marriage and devalues their spouse. They are the hero in their mind living their “truth” and unwilling to play pretend in their marriage anymore! The irony is that they are lying … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I can’t pretend anymore.””
Category: Sin
Not about caring about self too little!
Only fools say in their hearts, “There is no God.” They are corrupt, and their actions are evil; not one of them does good! -Psalm 14:1, NLT Cheaters do not become Cheaters because they are selfless creatures sacrificing what they want for others. Any Cheater feeding you this sort of narrative is VERY self-deceived! There … Continue reading “Not about caring about self too little!”
PSA: Not abuse to insist on the ending of cheating!
Public Service Announcement (PSA): It is not abuse to insist the cheater end the affair! Someone needs to see this. Cheaters will pull out all stops to make the faithful spouse look like the bad person. Insisting the affair end is a healthy boundary. It is respectful. You are simply refusing to accept ongoing infidelity … Continue reading “PSA: Not abuse to insist on the ending of cheating!”
Excuse for abuse? No. None.
I am convinced adultery is always abusive. Always. You cannot cheat on a spouse without abusing their trust minimally. Plus, I have yet to discover a story involving adultery where a period of deception did not take place–however, brief. In addition to that, I believe based on my reading of Scripture that adultery is soul … Continue reading “Excuse for abuse? No. None.”
Alluring Premature Forgiveness
…and if you see him going the wrong direction, cry out and correct him. If there is true repentance on his part, forgive him. -Luke 17:3, TPT What I find interesting is how much advice is given to faithful spouses about forgiveness as if this is the hardest part–convincing faithful spouses of the importance of … Continue reading “Alluring Premature Forgiveness”
Pick vulnerable time
Cheaters are known to blow up the home life during a time of vulnerability for the faithful partner. This might be during a time of financial vulnerability where you are trying to launch your career or were a stay at home parent for a long time. This might come when you are ill or even … Continue reading “Pick vulnerable time”
Cheater-Speak: “You’ve deceived your closest family and friends.”
“You’ve deceived your closest friends and family into thinking you’re a good person,” says Cheater. The irony of such a statement is how the Cheater is actually the one who has done this, NOT the faithful spouse! They have played their cards close to their vest. Cheated and lied for months or years including to … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “You’ve deceived your closest family and friends.””
Burming truth
All who do evil hate the light and refuse to go near it for fear their sins will be exposed. -John 3:20, NLT If a cheater has anything of a conscience left, they will be in extreme pain when their actions are exposed for the sin and evil they are. Cheaters committed to their sin … Continue reading “Burming truth”
Sanctimonious Bovine Scat!
“I feel like I have to keep divorce as an option or I am making my marriage an idol,” says duplicitous Cheater. “God wants me to be happy,” says self-deceived Cheater. Sanctimonious Bovine Scat! The invoking of religion in an attempt to “justify” their cheating is especially awful, in my opinion. It messes with one’s … Continue reading “Sanctimonious Bovine Scat!”
Mine, mine, mine!
“No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.” -Matthew 6:24, NIV “How dare you invade MY privacy?!” “How dare you steal MY money?!” “How dare you take MY … Continue reading “Mine, mine, mine!”