I meant that you are not to associate with anyone who claims to be a believer yet indulges in sexual sin…. It isn’t my responsibility to judge outsiders, but it certainly is your responsibility to judge those inside the church who are sinning. -I Corinthians 5:11a, 12, NLT We are commanded to judge those who … Continue reading “Called to Judge “In House””
Category: Sin
No other reason
“Why did you grab your contraception while I was away,” asks faithful spouse. “Oh, I was just grabbing things,” says Cheater. Cheaters might grab their contraception and then boldly lie about the why. There is only one reason to grab contraception–namely, to have sex. Cheater is having or is about to have sex with someone … Continue reading “No other reason”
Ridiculously weak responses
“I’m praying for you guys,” says well-meaning Christian “friend.” “But she is cheating on me,” exclaims faithful husband. “I don’t want to take sides,” says well-meaning Christian “friend.” This person is NOT a true friend. They were just informed about the cheating, and they punted on caring for the abused party. That is not friend … Continue reading “Ridiculously weak responses”
Judgy Jesus
You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father’s desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies. -John 8:44, NIV … Continue reading “Judgy Jesus”
Prove to you? Really?!
I am my lover’s, and my lover is mine. -Song of Solomon 6:3a, NLT Prove to you? Really?! One of the biggest contrasts between my current marriage and my marriage to Cheater is how Mrs. DM treats me as the prize. I am not a means to something like I was with Cheater. This is … Continue reading “Prove to you? Really?!”
You are praying for her? Right?
“You’re praying for her, right?” asks Concerned Christian. “Actually, I decided to follow the Apostle Paul’s example regarding Alexander in 2 Timothy as that seems more applicable to my situation,” replies Faithful Spouse. ___ You need to know that Alexander,the jeweler, has done me great harm. May our Lord give him what he deserves for all … Continue reading “You are praying for her? Right?”
Judging as good
12 What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside? 13 God will judge those outside. -I Corinthians 5:12-13a, NIV Theologically, I am not in the camp of “never” judge another “Christian.” This passage out of I Corinthians plainly exposes such a position as not proper among New … Continue reading “Judging as good”
Nearly Forty Percent!!!
“Almost 40% polled said they have had an extra-marital affair since beginning their ministry.” -Bill Mills & Craig Parro. Finishing Well In Life & Ministry. Leadership Resources International, 2008, pp 14. This statistic about pastors or ministry leaders is from 2002 and was put out by Bill Bright, Campus Crusade’s founder. So, the data is a … Continue reading “Nearly Forty Percent!!!”
Do not commit adultery is a command!
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV I wonder how this commandment has become second fiddle to couples’ counseling “wisdom” for so many pastors. So much time goes into the “why” of the cheating and little time is spent on pointing out the willful nature of the sin. In other words, pastors can be … Continue reading “Do not commit adultery is a command!”
Owning or being owned by sin
For we must all stand before Christ to be judged. We will each receive whatever we deserve for the good or evil we have done in this earthly body. -2 Corinthians 5:10, NLT “Why did you choose to sin?” This is the question for the cheater. Until they understand the answer to this, they cannot repent. The … Continue reading “Owning or being owned by sin”