If a man is discovered committing adultery, both he and the woman must die. In this way, you will purge Israel of such evil. -Deuteronomy 22:22, NLT Cheaters sometimes choose adultery as a way to totally blow up their marriage on the way out. They are executing their plan to abandon their spouse via the … Continue reading “A wicked way to go!”
Category: Theology of divorce
Grieving is complicated.
Grief hurts. It surprises even years after the loss. You might think you have “dealt with that” only to discover feelings ambush you at some surprise moment. Our culture does not do grief well. Churches can be especially bad on this number. This is particularly true as it comes to the grief associated with a … Continue reading “Grieving is complicated.”
YOUR decision!
But I say that a man who divorces his wife, unless she has been unfaithful, causes her to commit adultery. And anyone who marries a divorced woman also commits adultery. -Matthew 5:32, NLT Faithful spouse, you are free to choose divorce over staying in an abusive marriage with a cheater. This is what I see … Continue reading “YOUR decision!”
Not “an easy way out”
Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye? -Matthew 7:4, NKJV A faithful spouse choosing to divorce a cheater is not taking the “easy way out!” It is disgusting that a follower of Christ would ever suggest such a thing. They … Continue reading “Not “an easy way out””
Unexpected Confessions
“You have more biblical reason to divorce me,” says (cheating) partner as mask slips. Sometimes, you might get an unexpected confession from your Cheater. The mask occasionally slips. How can it not at some point? It has to be exhausting keeping up their house of lies. Gaslighting takes some real effort. Double lives don’t “just … Continue reading “Unexpected Confessions”
Grateful for what I did not want
Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good. His love endures forever. -Psalm 136:1, NIV Naively, I thought I’d be a “miracle story” until the end of my first marriage. That is probably why it hit so hard when the divorce was finalized. I never wanted the divorce. If left to my own devices, I probably … Continue reading “Grateful for what I did not want”
Freedom from same old arguments
Freedom From Same Old Arguments One of the benefits of divorcing your Cheater is freedom from the same old arguments. You no longer have to engage in the inane arguments you’ve been having with Cheater over the years. It is over. Maybe they have been trying to dominate you and get you to agree with … Continue reading “Freedom from same old arguments”
Their Double Lives
Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses. -Proverbs 27:6, NIV Their Double Lives One of the major reasons why divorce is the best of bad options left to faithful spouses is the magnitude of the sins committed by Cheaters. Double lives denote a lifestyle of lying and deception that has … Continue reading “Their Double Lives”
Nuking the family
But a man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so destroys himself. -Proverbs 6:32, NIV Cheaters nuke their own family. For the thrill of forbidden sex, these disordered characters are willing to sacrifice everything. They place their pleasure over the well-being of their spouse and children. What is important to them is their own … Continue reading “Nuking the family”
Divorce free from shame
“I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” -Matthew 19:9, NIV I do not see a time limit set on these words. The exemption is there for anyone who has a spouse that engaged in sexually unfaithful behavior. That is what I see in … Continue reading “Divorce free from shame”