If someone says, “I love God,” but hates a fellow believer, that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see?
-I John 4:20, NLT
Cheater Rage Shield
I wonder if you ever experienced your Cheater seeming to get angrier the less time you spent or interacted with them. They spewed all sorts of vile things about you as if you were actively harming them. But you hadn’t talked to them for days or weeks.
What’s going on in these scenarios?
Besides the obvious ploy to play the victim, Cheaters are probably using rage as a shield from dealing with reality. They are so angry so as to avoid feelings of shame and vulnerability. Your presence, perhaps, reminds them of their shame they are suppressing with rage.
Whatever the reason, it does not make it any less unpleasant for the faithful spouse experiencing Cheater rage.
I think it is important to remember that people might say something about you while the whole matter is really always about them.
Cheaters might rage and point the figure at you for their misery. However, the truth is that they alone are responsible for their own misery. The rage aimed at you is not fairly “earned” even if they say otherwise.
