Dating again?
My recommendation is to find someone who is not very good at lying. Put in more positive framing:
Find a transparent and honest person.
My ex-wife was very good at lying. I suspect many can relate to this statement who come here as well. Was your cheater an accomplished liar, too?
Some cheaters are very good at hiding their secret double lives through lies. I suspect it is because they actually believe the lies themselves, sadly.
A person caught up in the language of lies is not a fit partner to someone who is committed to living in the truth and the light. In other words, such a person is not a fit partner for a follower of Christ (see John 8:44).
My advice for newly dating faithful spouses is to look for someone who is open and even struggles in keeping good surprises. These are signs of health and value alignment.
Find a bad liar.
They make for wonderful spouses.
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Ugh!
Mine presented as someone who was too sweet to lie. It was just a facade she took advantage of to manipulate people. I am still peeling the layers of that onion….
Yes, sometimes it is hard to discern… especially with skilled liars.
Lesson I learned: if they will lie to you; they will lie about you!!
As much as I discovered “the nicest guy in the world” had lied TO me, I found that he had been lying even more to others ABOUT me -throughout our entire relationship!
Sad but true. Good point.