Today, Chump Lady sent me this comment from her blog highlighting some rather awful advice given by a minister to a faithful spouse: I am so glad to read this post and all the replies tonight. I had an email exchange with my (former) minister earlier today that really frustrated me. I reached out to … Continue reading “Mailbag: “‘Feeling self-righteous and morally superior is a big trap.’””
Author: Divorce Minister
An Anti-Anniversary: Rising From The Ashes
DM in 2012 It’s so hard to believe today marks the three year anniversary of my marriage ending in divorce. I will always remember when I got the official word of this and how awful it felt. I did not feel like celebrating. It was the end of my six year long marriage. However, I … Continue reading “An Anti-Anniversary: Rising From The Ashes”
Mars Hill Church, Mark Driscoll, and My First Marriage
“But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.” -I Timothy 5:8, KJV “And whoever does not provide for relatives, and especially for family members, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” – I … Continue reading “Mars Hill Church, Mark Driscoll, and My First Marriage”
Working On Some Technical Difficulties
Hang tight…need to fix some technical issues on the blog…new posts to be coming soon, hopefully! -DM And we’re back!!!
Flashes of Anger
Sing to the Lord, all you godly ones! Praise his holy name. For his anger lasts only a moment, but his favor lasts a lifetime! Psalm 30:4-5a, NLT We cannot heal or grow if we shame ourselves for having feelings. Similarly, we cannot heal or grow if we allow others to shut us down for … Continue reading “Flashes of Anger”
Imperfect but still deserving better!
I don’t mean to say that I have already achieved these things or that I have already reached perfection. But I press on to possess that perfection for which Christ Jesus first possessed me. -Philippians 3:12, NLT Faithful spouses are not without their moral or relational flaws. I know I was and am not perfect. … Continue reading “Imperfect but still deserving better!”
“Broken” Home Shaming
Father to the fatherless, defender of widows— this is God, whose dwelling is holy. God places the lonely in families; he sets the prisoners free and gives them joy. But he makes the rebellious live in a sun-scorched land. -Psalm 68:5-6, NLT “Broken” Home Shaming I call it “Broken Home Shaming” because I notice how … Continue reading ““Broken” Home Shaming”
“Spotlight” Movie Thoughts
“‘How do you say no to God?’”- Victim Yesterday, I went to a local theater to watch the movie “Spotlight.” This movie is about the Catholic Child Sexual Abuse Scandal as broken by the Spotlight group out of the Boston Globe. It is based on that true story from 2001-2003. The movie is truly heartbreaking. … Continue reading ““Spotlight” Movie Thoughts”
Stacked Deck
Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves; ensure justice for those being crushed. Yes, speak up for the poor and helpless, and see that they get justice. -Proverbs 31:8-9, NLT When you have just discovered your spouse of x years has cheated on you, it is hard to make good choices and not … Continue reading “Stacked Deck”
Choosing “neutrality” is STILL a choice!
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV But since you are like lukewarm water, neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth! – Revelation 3:16, NLT Some people simply do not engage in ugliness that adultery brings. They claim neutrality or attempt to avoid acknowledging the inconvenient truth that a … Continue reading “Choosing “neutrality” is STILL a choice!”