“A good man out of the good treasure of the heart bringeth forth good things: and an evil man out of the evil treasure bringeth forth evil things. But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment.” -Matthew 12:35-36, KJV Follow … Continue reading “It’s the choices, Stupid!”
Author: Divorce Minister
The Greatest Cheater Vice
And he gives grace generously. As the Scriptures say, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” So humble yourselves before God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. -James 4:6-7, NLT PRIDE… …is the greatest–and spiritually deadliest–cheater vice. Pride says, “I will never get caught.” Pride says, “I deserve to be ‘happy.’” … Continue reading “The Greatest Cheater Vice”
Destructive Narrative: Horny Christian Husbands
The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. – I Corinthians 7:3, NLT So much I was taught about marriage and sexuality growing up in the evangelical church pit husbands against wives in regards to sex in a marriage. Almost always, I heard stories that cast the … Continue reading “Destructive Narrative: Horny Christian Husbands”
The Rejected Ones
11 Jesus is “‘the stone you builders rejected, which has become the cornerstone.’ 12 Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved. -Acts 4:11-12, NIV How is Jesus identified by the Apostle Peter on Pentecost? He is The Rejected One. This … Continue reading “The Rejected Ones”
Returning Victims To Their Soul Rapists
Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” … Continue reading “Returning Victims To Their Soul Rapists”
Love may wait…but it does not guarantee happily ever after!
I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. – I Corinthians 7:8-9, KJV Love may wait to have sex… …but waiting does not guarantee your marriage will not … Continue reading “Love may wait…but it does not guarantee happily ever after!”
I don’t want YOU to work it out…
“I don’t want you to work it out… …if your adulterous spouse is unrepentant. I simply do not.” I wish more pastors would take this stance and verbalize it to their congregants. It is very Biblical (e.g. Jeremiah 3:8, Ezekiel 18:20, 2 Corinthians 5:10, Matthew 19:9, Hebrews 13:4, etc.). However, I am aware that for some pastors … Continue reading “I don’t want YOU to work it out…”
Happy Thanksgiving 2015!
Happy Thanksgiving! I can remember that first Thanksgiving without a spouse in the picture. It was rough. But I still had things for which to thank God. He had moved so that I had a job and was just starting to get my footing in the career I love–i.e. professional chaplaincy. I had wonderful parents, … Continue reading “Happy Thanksgiving 2015!”
Good Samaritan OR Religious Person?
“A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, when he was attacked by robbers. They stripped him of his clothes, beat him and went away, leaving him half dead. A priest happened to be going down the same road, and when he saw the man, he passed by on the other side. So too, … Continue reading “Good Samaritan OR Religious Person?”
Pastors, It is NOT an “Either/Or!”
THE “EITHER/OR”: EITHER you support marriages OR you support those going through divorce. When Mrs. DM and I were at our former church, I proposed to offer my services in starting a divorce and separated support group to help those who had experienced or were experiencing divorce, separation, and/or were considering such. The senior leadership looked … Continue reading “Pastors, It is NOT an “Either/Or!””