Divorcee:“I’m divorced.” Christian church-goer:“I’m sorry. That’s too bad.” Sometimes, it is easy to feel like one has a scarlet “D” tattooed to one’s backside. Do I have to justify my divorce to every Christian to whom I reveal my marital status? I know some of us do not struggle with this. Some people seem bulletproof … Continue reading “Pity Or Empathy: Responding to the Divorced”
Author: Divorce Minister
Divorce Context in Jesus’ Day
If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house… Deuteronomy 24:1, NIV A puzzle I have not attacked–until now–is over why Matthew is the only Gospel that provides … Continue reading “Divorce Context in Jesus’ Day”
Guilty For NOT Confronting Adulterous Spouses
When I say to the wicked, ‘You wicked person, you will surely die,’ and you do not speak out to dissuade them from their ways, that wicked person will die for their sin, and I will hold you accountable for their blood. But if you do warn the wicked person to turn from their ways and … Continue reading “Guilty For NOT Confronting Adulterous Spouses”
Forgiveness Looks Like For Me
“For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” – Matthew 6:14-15, NIV Forgiveness is a rather difficult concept to grasp. But it is vital to grasp it as Jesus is … Continue reading “Forgiveness Looks Like For Me”
“I care about you…”
The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. -Proverbs 12:18, NIV I care about you but not enough… …to end my friendship with the adulterous spouse until she repents. My thoughts: “Sorry, your concern for me sounds skin deep. Scripture is clear that a person who … Continue reading ““I care about you…””
Full Strength Medicine Needed!
“She always struck me as the type that needed to take her medicine straight up.” – J, a friend from seminary, referring to my (now) ex-wife These pearls of wisdom came from a true friend during a time when I was floundering. I needed to grow a backbone quickly. Thankfully, I had a friend like … Continue reading “Full Strength Medicine Needed!”
“You Need To Forgive Your Adulterous Spouse.”
“You sound angry. I really think you need to forgive your spouse for cheating on you. Forgive and forget. After all, Jesus did that for you.” -Christian “Friend” to Faithful Spouse The most hurtful pieces of advice usually have a hint of truth as does this one. We do need to forgive our spouses … Continue reading ““You Need To Forgive Your Adulterous Spouse.””
Responding to Foolish Bible Applications
Be sure to answer the foolish arguments of fools, or they will become wise in their own estimation. -Proverbs 26:5, NLT Often times, I encounter frequent flyers as far as passages used to abuse faithful spouses. Well-meaning or just self-righteous religious people spout off some verse or passage thinking they are dispensing much needed … Continue reading “Responding to Foolish Bible Applications”
Answering Questioners
So when they continued asking Him, He raised Himself up and said to them,“He who is without sin among you, let him throw a stone at her first.” – John 8:7, NKJV This past weekend I had some interesting conversations with people I had just met. They were generally positive interactions on the whole. I appreciated … Continue reading “Answering Questioners”
Do Cheaters Ever Really Win?
And what do you benefit if you gain the whole world but lose your own soul? Is anything worth more than your soul? – Matthew 16:26, NLT During the time of my first marriage’s implosion, I was going through a rough patch in my life. I was working as a barista in a local coffee … Continue reading “Do Cheaters Ever Really Win?”