A few days ago, a vigilant reader of the blog sent me the name of a psychologist, Omar Minwalla, Psy.D., who takes adultery seriously. It was refreshing to read his work (see link here) and hear him speak (see link here) on the subject of caring for faithful spouses. While I have no idea of … Continue reading “Omar Minwalla, Psy.D, A Secular Psychologist Who Gets “It””
Author: Divorce Minister
Married Is Not Dating
She was the brash, rebellious type, never content to stay at home. She is often in the streets and markets, soliciting at every corner. She threw her arms around him and kissed him, and with a brazen look she said … “Come, let’s drink our fill of love until morning. Let’s enjoy each other’s … Continue reading “Married Is Not Dating”
“I’m not defined by my past.”
Don’t you realize that those who do wrong will not inherit the Kingdom of God? Don’t fool yourselves. Those who indulge in sexual sin, or who worship idols, or commit adultery, or are male prostitutes, or practice homosexuality, or are thieves, or greedy people, or drunkards, or are abusive, or cheat people—none of these will inherit … Continue reading ““I’m not defined by my past.””
I’m NO Plan B!
Be careful not to forget the covenant of the Lord your God that he made with you; do not make for yourselves an idol in the form of anything the Lord your God has forbidden. For the Lord your God is a consuming fire, a jealous God. – Deuteronomy 4:23-24, NIV God is jealous! Jealousy … Continue reading “I’m NO Plan B!”
Remember Who He Is!
“You Are I Am” – MercyMe When going through some deep and dark life valleys, it is good to be reminded about who our God is. It is wise to learn to fix our gaze upon Him. This song was helpful for me in doing just that when I was healing up from the discovery … Continue reading “Remember Who He Is!”
Cruelty and Clarity
A righteous man regardeth the life of his beast: but the tender mercies of the wicked are cruel. – Proverbs 12:10, KJV Clarity can come from strange places. And peace may flow from a time of unquieted anxiety. I discovered these truths in my healing journey from learning of my former spouse’s infidelity and the … Continue reading “Cruelty and Clarity”
True Remorse and the Cheater’s Self-Forgiveness Struggle
Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death. See what this godly sorrow has produced in you: what earnestness, what eagerness to clear yourselves, what indignation, what alarm, what longing, what concern,what readiness to see justice done. At every point you have proved yourselves to be … Continue reading “True Remorse and the Cheater’s Self-Forgiveness Struggle”
Singing In Faith
“My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me: And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand. My Father, which gave them me, is greater than all; and no man is able to pluck them out of my Father’s … Continue reading “Singing In Faith”
Shipwrecked
Timothy, my son, I am giving you this command in keeping with the prophecies once made about you, so that by recalling them you may fight the battle well, holding on to faith and a good conscience, which some have rejected and so have suffered shipwreck with regard to the faith. – 1 Timothy 1:18-19, … Continue reading “Shipwrecked”
It was a hug.
“Goodbye in her eyes” by Zac Brown Band It wasn’t a kiss. It was a hug. We had just finished our dentist appointments. She had forgotten that she had made joint appointments. I had already confronted her about the Other Man about two weeks prior. She was still lying about him. Still denying adultery. But … Continue reading “It was a hug.”