Author: Divorce Minister

Do NOT Respond In Kind!

A good name is more desirable than great riches;     to be esteemed is better than silver or gold. -Proverbs 22:1, NIV Nothing justifies committing adultery. And nothing justifies having an emotional affair. Nothing. Just because your spouse committed adultery or had an emotional affair does not mean you are now allowed to have one, too. … Continue reading “Do NOT Respond In Kind!”

King David’s Son Still Died…

Then David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” Nathan replied, “The Lord has taken away your sin. You are not going to die. But because by doing this you have shown utter contempt for the Lord, the son born to you will die.” -2 Samuel 12:13-14, NIV Forgiveness does not wipe out all consequences for … Continue reading “King David’s Son Still Died…”

Cheater-speak: “My marriage is my idol.”

People will be lovers of themselves…treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God—having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people. – 2 Timothy 3:2a, 4-5, NIV “I feel like I’ve made my marriage an idol. So, I need to give it to God being … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “My marriage is my idol.””

“For the kids!”

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV Adulterous spouses have no shame. On one hand, they will willfully and maliciously disregard how their selfish sinful choices impact their children, and then they will invoke their names … Continue reading ““For the kids!””

Mailbag: “Are marriages really decimated by one person?” Um, Yeah.

“Redeemed” wrote: It’s hard to read your blog, because you seem to be very bitter still, about everything to do with your marriage and it’s ending. My husband is training to be a minister and we had been married for 9 years and in September 2014 I started to have an affair for just under … Continue reading “Mailbag: “Are marriages really decimated by one person?” Um, Yeah.”

Betrayal Ripple Effect

Experiencing the adulterous betrayal of one’s spouse is bad enough. It is soul rape, after all. That pain alone is excruciating. A sucker punch to the gut that lingers for days, weeks, months…. It feels like your spouse disemboweled you and turned your world upside down with one awful adulterous revelation (let alone all that … Continue reading “Betrayal Ripple Effect”

Job Didn’t Always Feel The Love Either…

His wife said to him, “Are you still trying to be godly when God has done all this to you? Curse him and die.”  – Job 2:19, TLB This is really tempting advice to take when the bottom has fallen out of one’s life.*** *** If you have a suicide plan and means, please seek … Continue reading “Job Didn’t Always Feel The Love Either…”

That Ick Feeling

Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. It is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. – Ephesians 5:11-12, NIV When I share about this blog with others, I am sometimes met with interesting reactions. One reaction I’ve got was a “Why would you blog … Continue reading “That Ick Feeling”