“Oh well, we are all sinners after all.” This lame religious excuse may be heard coming from the adulterous spouse and/or other Christian “apologists” seeking “neutral” ground in this situation. While it sounds wise and caring, it is really an extremely poor application of Biblical truth to the situation. Can you imagine accepting this from … Continue reading ““Well, we are all sinners.””
Author: Divorce Minister
Tactics In Discrediting Faithful Spouses
When I was doing my first unit of Clinical Pastoral Education (CPE), I was blessed with some amazing classmates. We worked together learning about ourselves as well as how to bring quality pastoral care to those hurting at a Trauma One center in Hartford, CT. This unit took place while I was separated from my … Continue reading “Tactics In Discrediting Faithful Spouses”
Still Taking Feedback For Book
What posts or topics have you found most helpful or enlightening on my blog? Currently, I have a some idea of the posts/themes that need to be in this book. A title and angle I am thinking is below (subject to change): Divorce Minister’s Guide to Taking Adultery Seriously: Surviving A Spouse’s Infidelity While Remaining … Continue reading “Still Taking Feedback For Book”
Just Do It Already!
Jesus said to [Judas], “Friend, do what you came to do.” – Matthew 26:50a, ESV This weekend has been a busy weekend of celebration. We’ve been visiting my brothers and their families celebrating little kiddos’ birthdays. First, we celebrated my niece’s birthday, and now we are celebrating our Munchkin’s birthday. She is excited to open … Continue reading “Just Do It Already!”
Age Isn’t the Issue…
Then Samuel asked, “Are these all the sons you have?” “There is still the youngest,” Jesse replied. “But he’s out in the fields watching the sheep and goats.” “Send for him at once,” Samuel said. “We will not sit down to eat until he arrives.” -I Samuel 16:11, NLT Not much has changed in years … Continue reading “Age Isn’t the Issue…”
Not A Disappointment…
When my divorce went through, it was hard. The finality. It felt like a death. But to me, it was not so much a death of my marriage as the death of someone I had once cherished. Maybe I was always deluded. Like King Saul, maybe she never really had the character to be my … Continue reading “Not A Disappointment…”
Another Encouraging Song
A hug is a powerful expression of love. At least, it is to me. I love the songs that talk about God holding me. One of my favorites is the old gospel hymn, “Precious Lord, Take My Hand.” Another song that is touching is an older one in the “Contemporary Christian” genre. Rich Mullins”Hold Me … Continue reading “Another Encouraging Song”
Divorce As Moral Injury
While doing my year-long residency as a chaplain at a Veterans’ Affairs Medical Center, I gained education on a relatively new area of research and work for professional chaplains and psychologists working especially with combat veterans. Most people today are familiar with the acronym PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder), but I would be surprised if many … Continue reading “Divorce As Moral Injury”
Feedback Request: Pondering Writing A Book
Maybe it was dealing with horrible counsel found in Dr. Laney’s book or maybe it was a recent story of how this blog helped someone from my hometown or maybe it was writing another submission to a Christian online magazine for publication. I don’t know. Whatever it was (maybe a “Who” and not an “it”), I do … Continue reading “Feedback Request: Pondering Writing A Book”
When Divorce Is Always Unacceptable….
When divorce is treated as always unacceptable by Christian leaders… anything else is acceptable. -Lying is acceptable. -Stealing is acceptable. -Physical abuse is acceptable. -Emotional belittling and vitriolic diatribes against a spouse and the kids is acceptable. -Adultery is acceptable. In short, any sort of sin that you can imagine is acceptable. As long as the goal … Continue reading “When Divorce Is Always Unacceptable….”