Cruelty and Clarity

A righteous man regardeth the life of his beast: but the tender mercies of the wicked are cruel. – Proverbs 12:10, KJV Clarity can come from strange places. And peace may flow from a time of unquieted anxiety. I discovered these truths in my healing journey from learning of my former spouse’s infidelity and the … Continue reading “Cruelty and Clarity”

True Remorse and the Cheater’s Self-Forgiveness Struggle

Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death. See what this godly sorrow has produced in you: what earnestness, what eagerness to clear yourselves, what indignation, what alarm, what longing, what concern,what readiness to see justice done. At every point you have proved yourselves to be … Continue reading “True Remorse and the Cheater’s Self-Forgiveness Struggle”

It was a hug.

“Goodbye in her eyes” by Zac Brown Band It wasn’t a kiss. It was a hug. We had just finished our dentist appointments. She had forgotten that she had made joint appointments. I had already confronted her about the Other Man about two weeks prior. She was still lying about him. Still denying adultery. But … Continue reading “It was a hug.”

Job Did NOT Cheat.

Then his wife said to him, “Do you still hold fast to your integrity? Curse God and die!”  But he said to her, “You speak as one of the foolish women speaks. Shall we indeed accept good from God, and shall we not accept adversity?” – Job 2:9-10a, NKJV His wealth was all stolen. His … Continue reading “Job Did NOT Cheat.”

Happy Birthday To DM Blog!

Happy Anniversary to Divorce Minister! One year ago today, Mrs. DM and I agreed to buy this domain, obtain hosting, and start blogging. What started as an experiment to see if anyone found my thoughts on these matters interesting–while it was still a blogspot idea–has definitely grown. Today, the blog has had over 103,000 views and … Continue reading “Happy Birthday To DM Blog!”

What’s their REAL theology?

And he continued, “You have a fine way of setting aside the commands of God in order to observe your own traditions! For Moses said, ‘Honor your father and mother,’ and, ‘Anyone who curses their father or mother is to be put to death.’ But you say that if anyone declares that what might have been used to help … Continue reading “What’s their REAL theology?”