The sun rose above him [Jacob] as he passed Peniel, and he was limping because of his hip. -Genesis 32:31, NIV While I was working as a security officer before I was ever married, I remember listening to a teaching on the Christian radio about leadership. Some prominent pastor, I do remember who, was quoted as … Continue reading “Beware of Limp-less Leaders!”
Author: Divorce Minister
Temptation To Treat Affairs As Symptoms
When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. – Genesis 3:6, NIV Even with good books addressing … Continue reading “Temptation To Treat Affairs As Symptoms”
Lament and Michael Card
So often the church has lost sight of how important lament is. God wants our honesty. And sometimes all we can give God is our tears and protests of pain. The following series of YouTube videos linked below lay out a teaching by the Christian musician, Michael Card, on the topic of lament. It blessed … Continue reading “Lament and Michael Card”
On the “Bitter Card”
Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many. – Hebrews 12:14-15, NIV I am suspicious of … Continue reading “On the “Bitter Card””
Do NOT Respond In Kind!
A good name is more desirable than great riches; to be esteemed is better than silver or gold. -Proverbs 22:1, NIV Nothing justifies committing adultery. And nothing justifies having an emotional affair. Nothing. Just because your spouse committed adultery or had an emotional affair does not mean you are now allowed to have one, too. … Continue reading “Do NOT Respond In Kind!”
King David’s Son Still Died…
Then David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” Nathan replied, “The Lord has taken away your sin. You are not going to die. But because by doing this you have shown utter contempt for the Lord, the son born to you will die.” -2 Samuel 12:13-14, NIV Forgiveness does not wipe out all consequences for … Continue reading “King David’s Son Still Died…”
Cheater-speak: “My marriage is my idol.”
People will be lovers of themselves…treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God—having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people. – 2 Timothy 3:2a, 4-5, NIV “I feel like I’ve made my marriage an idol. So, I need to give it to God being … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “My marriage is my idol.””
“For the kids!”
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV Adulterous spouses have no shame. On one hand, they will willfully and maliciously disregard how their selfish sinful choices impact their children, and then they will invoke their names … Continue reading ““For the kids!””
Mailbag: “Are marriages really decimated by one person?” Um, Yeah.
“Redeemed” wrote: It’s hard to read your blog, because you seem to be very bitter still, about everything to do with your marriage and it’s ending. My husband is training to be a minister and we had been married for 9 years and in September 2014 I started to have an affair for just under … Continue reading “Mailbag: “Are marriages really decimated by one person?” Um, Yeah.”
Betrayal Ripple Effect
Experiencing the adulterous betrayal of one’s spouse is bad enough. It is soul rape, after all. That pain alone is excruciating. A sucker punch to the gut that lingers for days, weeks, months…. It feels like your spouse disemboweled you and turned your world upside down with one awful adulterous revelation (let alone all that … Continue reading “Betrayal Ripple Effect”