Why create an infidelity abuse survivor support group? When I went through my experience of divorce from my Cheater, nothing like this existed. The closest is a national Christian ministry for divorce situations in general. That syndicated ministry was helpful because of the excellent local leaders. Yet it was not exactly what I needed. Unique … Continue reading “Why an infidelity abuse support group? Cheated On Support Group Starts 9-9-24!”
Like Another Life
Today, I saw a short video highlighting tourist traps across the United States with old European themes. One of the locations was where I honeymooned with my ex-wife. It was a strange experience. I recognized the pictures and memories came back from that time. However, it was like I was observing another person. The grief … Continue reading “Like Another Life”
Value Added Worldly Wisdom
Don’t let anyone capture you with empty philosophies and high-sounding nonsense that come from human thinking and from the spiritual powers of this world, rather than from Christ. -Colossians 2:8, NLT “… for better or worse… rich or poor…” Cheaters do not allow the traditional wedding vows to touch their hearts. They come at marriage … Continue reading “Value Added Worldly Wisdom”
Wicked Flee
The wicked run away when no one is chasing them, but the godly are as bold as lions. -Proverbs 28:1, NLT Cheaters sometimes exhibit odd behaviors. I think those behaviors may be motivated by guilty consciences who know what they are doing is very wrong. They do odd things like a wicked person trying to … Continue reading “Wicked Flee”
Not alight
Like a flitting sparrow, like a flying swallow, So a curse without cause shall not alight. -Proverbs 26:2, KJV May all who gloat over my distress be put to shame and confusion; may all who exalt themselves over me be clothed with shame and disgrace. -Psalm 35:26, NIV My former father-in-law acted in very arrogant and nasty … Continue reading “Not alight”
Deluded Cheaters
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Cheaters are often self-deluded. They think that if they have justified their infidelity to themselves then it is justified. Nothing could be further from the truth. Nothing justifies committing adultery! God does not hand out exceptions to the Ten Commandments. That is not how this most basic … Continue reading “Deluded Cheaters”
Cheater-Speak: “I never meant to hurt you.”
“I never meant to hurt you,” says Cheater. “So, does that make what you did less awful than it is in your head?” says Faithful Spouse. Imagine management. That is what such a statement is about. They are trying to portray themselves as mistaken as opposed to willfully cruel. Regardless of intentions, what they did … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I never meant to hurt you.””
Sends His “Ravens”
Then the word of the Lord came to Elijah: “…You will drink from the brook, and I have directed the ravens to supply you with food there.” …The ravens brought him bread and meat in the morning and bread and meat in the evening, and he drank from the brook. -I Kings 17:2, 4, 6, NIV God sends His “ravens!” It … Continue reading “Sends His “Ravens””
Would’ve been 18 years today…
It would’ve been our eighteenth anniversary today. However, Cheaters do cheater things, and so, it isn’t. Another day… …that is what this day has mostly turned into at this point. I am such a different person than who married that person eighteen years ago. Thankfully, we can grow and learn. I was SO naive back … Continue reading “Would’ve been 18 years today…”
Cheater-Speak: “I love you, but I am not IN LOVE WITH you.”
“I love you, but I am not IN LOVE WITH you,” says lame Cheater. OR “I never loved you,” says cruel Cheater. Notice how these statements are all about the Cheater’s feelings. That is what is important to them. To be fair, they may have never loved you as they were not capable of loving … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I love you, but I am not IN LOVE WITH you.””