Jesus was in the stern, sleeping on a cushion. The disciples woke him and said to him, “Teacher, don’t you care if we drown?” -Mark 4:38, NIV “Don’t you care?!” Tomorrow, I am preaching from this passage. It is the passage in Mark where Jesus and his disciples are crossing storm tossed waters (see Mark … Continue reading “Do you care?!”
Heritage of Refutation
…no weapon forged against you will prevail, and you will refute every tongue that accuses you. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord… -Isaiah 54:17a, NIV I find this verse instructive about how we engage in spiritual warfare. We are not passive participants. God calls us to speak truth, which has the power to refute … Continue reading “Heritage of Refutation”
A divorced pastor is an asset.
3 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. -2 Corinthians 1:3-4, NIV A divorced pastor is an asset. Some churches … Continue reading “A divorced pastor is an asset.”
Redeemed Fiery Trials
“When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.” -I Corinthians 13:11, NIV “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.” -Popular Saying God has given us … Continue reading “Redeemed Fiery Trials”
All the counseling in the world!
But knowledge puffs up while love builds up. -I Corinthians 8:1b, NIV Knowledge is not a substitute for character. You can know all the things and still make poor choices. As a couple, you could have gone to all the wisest counselors and still ended up divorced after infidelity. Knowledge is not the same as … Continue reading “All the counseling in the world!”
In the midst
4 Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me. 5 Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over. -Psalm 23:4-5, KJV … Continue reading “In the midst”
Successful First “Cheated On Support Group”
In response to the call to create an in person support group for people dealing with infidelity abuse, I created the “Cheated On Support Group.” We ended one week early as we made it through the material I had hoped to cover in 12 weeks instead of needing 13 weeks. It was a small but … Continue reading “Successful First “Cheated On Support Group””
Sucked back into their chaos
Cheaters are “gifted” in sucking you back into their chaos. If you spent years allowing your Cheater to do what they wanted, it is hard to change that dynamic. It is difficult to stand up for oneself and hold to appropriate boundaries. They will test your boundaries. It is what they do. For example, you … Continue reading “Sucked back into their chaos”
End their centrality. Make them a footnote.
So the Lord blessed Job in the second half of his life even more than in the beginning. -Job 42:12a, NLT Faithful Spouses, we have a choice: Do we keep on allowing the cheater to be the central player in our life story or do we go out and take command of our story forging decisions … Continue reading “End their centrality. Make them a footnote.”
So Freaking Selfish!
An adulterous woman consumes a man, then wipes her mouth and says, “What’s wrong with that?” -Proverbs 30:20, NLT So FREAKING Selfish! Cheaters are so very self-centered and self-serving. Even after getting caught, they will continue make choices to sooth their own desires. It is symptomatic of their sick hearts. Sometimes, it is hard to … Continue reading “So Freaking Selfish!”