Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV Which is the biggest marital sin that one can commit according to the Bible? Adultery. Cheaters–and sometimes, even well-meaning pastors–sometimes treat adultery as a side problem to marriage troubles. This … Continue reading “Biggest Marital Sin?”
Cheater-Speak: “I just needed a break.”
“I just needed a break from our marriage,” says Cheater. There is no “Pause” button on the marriage covenant. You are either honoring or dishonoring your covenant commitments. No “Pause” option. Living as if one is not married is the ultimate living a lie for a spouse. It is treating one’s spouse with contempt and … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I just needed a break.””
Always calculating THEIR deal!
No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money. -Matthew 6:24, NIV Always Calculating THEIR “Deal!” One dynamic with Cheaters is how they approach relationships. The marriage is simply … Continue reading “Always calculating THEIR deal!”
Cheater Criticisms
I remember believing once that I had to consider everyone’s critical words. The idea is that I had to weigh if any truth were in them. This included words from my Cheater and her apologists. It could be the vilest attack on my character and person, but I would need to sort through the words … Continue reading “Cheater Criticisms”
Lifestyle of Cheating
In this the children of God and the children of the devil are manifest: Whoever does not practice righteousness is not of God, nor is he who does not love his brother. -I John 3:10, NLT I wonder if Cheaters act surprised sometimes when caught because they have been cheating so long without detection. Of course, I … Continue reading “Lifestyle of Cheating”
How dare we? Ha.
How dare we object to being humiliated by our Cheater?! How dare we object to our Cheater dirty dancing with someone else?! How dare we object to our Cheater taking another partner as their plus one?! How dare we object to our Cheater bad mouthing us to our “friends?!” Cheaters treat faithful spouses as the … Continue reading “How dare we? Ha.”
Well, what did you contribute to the breakdown of your marriage?
“Well, what did you contribute to the breakdown of your marriage?” I hate that question. It is a “Loaded Question”–meaning it assumes you did something to destroy your marriage. Such questions are errors in reasoning–i.e. logical fallacies. While the question looks reasonable, it is really just a dressed up version of “The Shared Responsibility Lie,” … Continue reading “Well, what did you contribute to the breakdown of your marriage?”
Bummer Outcome at My Meet
Today did not go as planned. I missed all three lifts on bench for various reasons. It was a real bummer. That said, I came away injury free, and that is a victory whenever lifting such heavy weights. Plus, failures teach us more than successes do. I plan to be a good student so that … Continue reading “Bummer Outcome at My Meet”
Hobby day! Weighing in for another Bench Only meet.
Tomorrow, I will attempt to enter the 800lbs (363kg) bench pressing club officially at a sanctioned meet. This is my other hobby that I do on the side–i.e. equipped bench press. It is a great physical outlet for me. I am chasing 1,000lbs/454kgs (drug free) on the bench as my ultimate goal. Hopefully, I will … Continue reading “Hobby day! Weighing in for another Bench Only meet.”
“But I wasn’t perfect either.”
“But I wasn’t perfect in our marriage either,” says Faithful Spouse. Do you have to be without sin to be the innocent party regarding the end of your marriage? I remember going through my trial with the denomination and struggling with a version of this question. It was difficult to see myself as the “innocent … Continue reading ““But I wasn’t perfect either.””