“But I wasn’t perfect in our marriage either,” says Faithful Spouse. Do you have to be without sin to be the innocent party regarding the end of your marriage? I remember going through my trial with the denomination and struggling with a version of this question. It was difficult to see myself as the “innocent … Continue reading ““But I wasn’t perfect either.””
On Cheaters Still Stuck
He will sit like a refiner of silver, burning away the dross. He will purify the Levites, refining them like gold and silver, so that they may once again offer acceptable sacrifices to the Lord. -Malachi 3:3, NLT Discovering infidelity is certainly a fiery trial. We can allow this fire to refine us as many of … Continue reading “On Cheaters Still Stuck”
The Confession Manipulation
So, your Cheater confesses to an affair. That’s a good first step to repentance, right?! Maybe…. Sadly, Cheaters can use confessions as a means to manipulate the faithful spouse. They try to contain the damage while blaming the faithful spouse for their sins. This is especially the case when the only confession is a confession … Continue reading “The Confession Manipulation”
Such a surreal feeling!
Years ago, I was driving down I-35. And I was struck by just how otherworldly the feeling was. Divorce was something that happened to other people. Yet it was happening to me. So surreal! I was clearly still in a state of shock. Thankfully, it was only a stage. I got through it, and I … Continue reading “Such a surreal feeling!”
Contentment Secret
I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. -Philippians 4:12b, NIV When I am tempted to spiral into resentment (or start going there), I am reminded of an important spiritual secret: Gratitude is a great antidote to resentment. … Continue reading “Contentment Secret”
Arrogant Cheaters
As the Scriptures say, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” -James 4:6b, NLT The spiritually fatal flaw of cheaters is their pride. They behave as if they know better than everyone, including God. Such individuals are beyond hope until they are humbled. Humility is essential for godliness. A cheater bereft of … Continue reading “Arrogant Cheaters”
Rescues really rescued us!
The godly care for their animals, but the wicked are always cruel. -Proverbs 12:10, NLT Mr. Pickles was a rescue. We brought him home in box as a kitten from a house overflowing with creatures. He helped me get through my divorce. I am SO grateful for him! It made a difference having a living … Continue reading “Rescues really rescued us!”
A DECADE! Divorce Minister Blog Turns 10 Years Old!!!
Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously was officially established on July 11, 2014. I created this website as a place to share on matters regarding the intersection of infidelity and divorce from a Christian pastor’s perspective. From my own personal experience, I discovered a dearth of resources for Christians finding themselves dealing with a cheating spouse … Continue reading “A DECADE! Divorce Minister Blog Turns 10 Years Old!!!”
Not all equal
My (now) ex and I went to a couple who were lay ministers. That was a mistake (if the goal was to avoid divorce). They were well-meaning people, but they were also very wrong in assessing our situation. Instead of focusing on my ex’s need to truly repent and repair our marriage due to her … Continue reading “Not all equal”
Acting entitled to your help
A stone is heavy and sand is weighty, But a fool’s wrath is heavier than both of them. -Proverbs 27:3, NKJV Have you ever noticed that Cheaters can’t be bothered to help you when you need it? However, they demand that you drop everything when they “need” something from you? They are such entitled creatures. And they can be cruel about … Continue reading “Acting entitled to your help”