“Adultery or fornication, committed after a contract, being detected before marriage, giveth just occasion to the innocent party to dissolve that contract. In the case of adultery after marriage, it is lawful for the innocent party to sue out a divorce, and after the divorce to marry another, as if the offending party were dead.” … Continue reading “Major Support for Divorce–WCF 1646”
Okay to admit being “not okay”
Walking in reality is good for our souls. Sometimes, that means admitting that we are “not okay.” But we can still hold hope that eventually we will be well. As we walk with Jesus, we know this is true. AND God can handle us being upset and “not okay” in the present. I love this … Continue reading “Okay to admit being “not okay””
To my faithful spouse dads, Happy Father’s Day!!!
Happy Father’s Day!!! Years ago, I felt this day acutely. My divorce had gone through, and I felt the death of dreams. We had no children. Then that changed when I met Mrs. DM and Munchkin. I became a husband and father all at once. It remains one of the best decisions of my life. … Continue reading “To my faithful spouse dads, Happy Father’s Day!!!”
Will reap destruction!
7 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. 8 Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. -Galatians 6:7-8, NIV Reaping Destruction This is the spiritual outcome for those who indulge in sin. They will not reap … Continue reading “Will reap destruction!”
Sucker punch feeling
What just happened? You thought your spouse would never cheat on you. That was until you were faced with indisputable evidence to the contrary. It is a sucker punch to the gut. I think infidelity discovery is one the most disorienting experiences a human can have. The betrayal is soul deep. Depending on how long … Continue reading “Sucker punch feeling”
God is SO good and caring!
5 A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling. 6 God sets the lonely in families, he leads out the prisoners with singing; but the rebellious live in a sun-scorched land. -Psalm 68:5-6, NIV Our God is someone who cares for the isolated and imprisoned. What I love about the Psalms is how … Continue reading “God is SO good and caring!”
Pride’s kissing cousin, Contempt!
As the Scriptures say, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” -James 4:6b, NLT When your cheater shows contempt for you, that is a sure sign that they are not the least bit repentant. Now, they may be annoyed to have to deal with the consequences of their actions. Their god-like assessment … Continue reading “Pride’s kissing cousin, Contempt!”
Forgiveness is NOT a lobotomy!
Forgiveness is NOT a lobotomy! When we forgive, we do not forget. The experiences we have had stay with us–especially the hard ones. Few things are harder than discovering your spouse cheated on you! I am sure I will carry the technicolor memory of my ex-wife quasi-confessing her cheating on Thanksgiving Eve 2012 for the … Continue reading “Forgiveness is NOT a lobotomy!”
Cheater-Speak: “If only you would have….”
“If only you would have done everything to bring in money, then I wouldn’t be so miserable.” -Cheater Some Cheaters genuinely believe their spouse is responsible for their feelings, especially their happiness or lack thereof. This is a losing proposition for faithful spouses. We cannot succeed in this rigged game. Humans are responsible for their … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “If only you would have….””
No excuse. Period.
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV With the way faithful spouses are handled after adultery discovery, you would think this verse from the Ten Commandments said something different. “Thou shalt not commit adultery” [UNLESS]… …you have a difficult marriage. …you are not getting “enough” sex. …your spouse isn’t connecting with you emotionally like … Continue reading “No excuse. Period.”