How long must I wrestle with my thoughts and day after day have sorrow in my heart? How long will my enemy triumph over me? Look on me and answer, Lord my God. Give light to my eyes, or I will sleep in death, and my enemy will say, “I have overcome him,” and my … Continue reading “Encouraging Thought From Psalm 13”
Forgiving Adultery
Forgiveness is hard. But we are called to forgive our brother and sister. Jesus tells us to do so. And he tells us to do so from our hearts. In illustrating this point, Jesus gives us “The Parable of the Unmerciful Servant” in Matthew 18:21-35. Essentially, it is a story about how a servant owes … Continue reading “Forgiving Adultery”
Has God really forgiven him even when he is still in adultery?
David, thank you so much for your words. I had been programed for twenty years to believe that my stbxh was a Christian, honorable, wise, trustworthy and safe man. Then he left me out of the blue and a month later I found out he was having an affair and that he had been cheating with … Continue reading “Has God really forgiven him even when he is still in adultery?”
Don’t Caste Your Pearls
“Do not give what is holy to the dogs; nor cast your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you in pieces.” -Jesus in Matthew 7:6, NKJV And when the Pharisees saw it, they said to His disciples, “Why does your Teacher eat with tax collectors and sinners?” When … Continue reading “Don’t Caste Your Pearls”
I hate the movie “Fireproof”
For a time is coming when people will no longer listen to sound and wholesome teaching. They will follow their own desires and will look for teachers who will tell them whatever their itching ears want to hear. – 2 Timothy 4:3, NLT About five years ago, a major marital craze went through the American, … Continue reading “I hate the movie “Fireproof””
Adultery: A Bigger Problem Than Just One Sexual Act
“‘But what comes out of the mouth proceeds from the heart, and this is what defiles. For out of the heart come evil intentions, murder, adultery, fornication, theft, false witness, slander. These are what defile a person….’” – Jesus in Matthew 15:18-20a, NSRV. While one act of adultery is horrible enough, I suspect many outsiders fail … Continue reading “Adultery: A Bigger Problem Than Just One Sexual Act”
God Will Not Reject You
“Failures are events, not persons.” -Anonymous psychologist (emphasis mine) “Even if my father and mother abandon me, the Lord will hold me close.” -Psalm 27:10, NLT These two quotes ministered greatly to my ravaged soul during the aftermath of discovering adultery and getting divorced. The power of the statements are tied to the lies they address. When … Continue reading “God Will Not Reject You”
When do I forgive?
I understand. I guess what I’m asking is: When do I forgive? As time moves on, as it apparently has in your case, when do we forgive and move on? It seems the sin will never be acknowledged. Or, in other cases, it can not be … in the case of death of the offender, … Continue reading “When do I forgive?”
“Emotional Affairs” and Dr. Phil
After I learned of my former spouse’s infidelity, I discovered these old videos from a Dr. Phil session on emotional affairs aired in 2009. Last night, I watched them again with Mrs. DM, and we both agreed they are worth posting on the blog. While I do not endorse everything Dr. Phil writes and says, … Continue reading ““Emotional Affairs” and Dr. Phil”
Does God Give Permission To Sin?
Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?” “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be … Continue reading “Does God Give Permission To Sin?”