26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: -Ephesians 4:26, KJV My anger was not really directed at my Cheater. It was mostly directed at individuals involved conspiring with her against me. These were individuals who claimed to be Christian while getting involved in destroying my marriage. At … Continue reading “Did not really get angry with her”
“Unmet Needs” Excuse–aka Lie
The “Unmet Needs” Theory Lie: Put succinctly… …teaches faithful spouses that their deficiencies at home is what drove the adulterous spouse to cheat. The faithful spouse was not sexually available enough. The faithful spouse was not emotionally adept and engaged enough. You know the drill. I have heard in horror how even pastors operate under … Continue reading ““Unmet Needs” Excuse–aka Lie”
Heavenly gifts abound!
Whatever is good and perfect is a gift coming down to us from God our Father, who created all the lights in the heavens. He never changes or casts a shifting shadow. -James 1:17, NLT Yesterday, I was thinking about the theme of forgiveness. I was struck about how Cheaters often leave the gift of … Continue reading “Heavenly gifts abound!”
Tension between justice and mercy regarding forgiveness
21 “The son said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son.’ 22 “But the father said to his servants, ‘Quick! Bring the best robe and put it on him. Put a ring on his finger and sandals on his feet. -Luke 15:21-22, NIV Lately, I have … Continue reading “Tension between justice and mercy regarding forgiveness”
Cheater Apologist: Well, are you without sin?!
“She has been cheating on me these last few months. I can’t stay married to her considering all of that,” says the faithful spouse. “Don’t be so hasty. After all, are you without sin?” says the cheater apologist. Such a response from a “Christian” cheater apologist is far from helpful. Not all sins have the … Continue reading “Cheater Apologist: Well, are you without sin?!”
Unhelpful price for Christian “support”
Hate evil and love what is good; turn your courts into true halls of justice. Perhaps even yet the Lord God of Heaven’s Armies will have mercy on the remnant of his people. -Amos 5:15, NLT Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously is an online community where I do not blame the victims of adultery. Too often, I … Continue reading “Unhelpful price for Christian “support””
No seductive lamb in that story!
4 “Now a traveler came to the rich man, but the rich man refrained from taking one of his own sheep or cattle to prepare a meal for the traveler who had come to him. Instead, he took the ewe lamb that belonged to the poor man and prepared it for the one who had come … Continue reading “No seductive lamb in that story!”
Successful Lifting Meet
Today, I had a successful meet competing in the bench press. It was my first “raw” meet–meaning without the assistance of a shirt (gear). I hit 185kgs/407.8lbs. It was good for a national record in my federation for my age and size, drug tested. It is a fun hobby. I will be back to my … Continue reading “Successful Lifting Meet”
Big Hobby Day Tomorrow!
Hobbies are important for flourishing and recovering from infidelity trauma. I really encourage you to develop hobbies as you work towards your new life. For me, weight training has always been apart of my life both prior and after my first marriage. This weekend I get to compete in a weight lifting meet. I will … Continue reading “Big Hobby Day Tomorrow!”
Affairs are like chocolate chip cookies
A few months back, I watched a video where the commentator talked about cheating and likened it to cake. I am riffing off that commentary today. Affairs are like walking into the kitchen to find your Cheater holding two chocolate chip cookies…. You say, “You know that you aren’t supposed to be eating chocolate chip … Continue reading “Affairs are like chocolate chip cookies”