When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. – I Corinthians 13:11, NIV Let’s get something straight… A crushed “delicate flower” or a “bruised reed” does not have the energy … Continue reading ““Wilting Daisy” Ploy”
A Decade as a Board Certified Chaplain
Herod was furious when he realized that the wise men had outwitted him. He sent soldiers to kill all the boys in and around Bethlehem who were two years old and under, based on the wise men’s report of the star’s first appearance. -Mathew 2:16, NLT Satan threw everything at me a little over a … Continue reading “A Decade as a Board Certified Chaplain”
“I’m not gonna pick a side,” says Christian “friend.”
“I ‘m not gonna pick sides in this,” says a Christian “friend.” A person saying this is communicating to the adultery victim that they think something could justify their victimization. Let’s be clear: They ARE picking a side. It is the side of the adulterous spouse. This helps evil flourish. This is not a godly … Continue reading ““I’m not gonna pick a side,” says Christian “friend.””
Friend like the ones Job had
After the Lord had finished speaking to Job, he said to Eliphaz the Temanite: “I am angry with you and your two friends, for you have not spoken accurately about me….” -Job 42:7a, NLT THAT “friend” said all sort of things to you… …they were inaccurate about God (and you) just like Job’s friends. Sometimes this is … Continue reading “Friend like the ones Job had”
“Don’t you see that you divorced her in your heart?!”
“Don’t you see that you have divorced her in your heart?” says clueless counselor (after revelation of her confessed emotional affair). What does “divorced in your heart” even mean? When I heard something like this, I was desperate to save the marriage. The disconnect from this sort of counsel, and the reality that she was … Continue reading ““Don’t you see that you divorced her in your heart?!””
Made a humiliating list
When I was separated from my cheater, I made a list. It is humiliating looking back on it. I wrote up a list of reasons for why I wanted to stay married to her (even though, I knew she was a cheater). As you might have guessed, she responded to it with contempt. In part, … Continue reading “Made a humiliating list”
PSA: The real shame is committing adultery, Pastors!
But a man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so destroys himself. Blows and disgrace are his lot, and his shame will never be wiped away. -Proverbs 6:32-33, NIV The real shame is not faithful spouses divorcing cheaters, pastors. The real shame is Christians committing adultery! Preaching or counseling against divorce is a little late when it comes … Continue reading “PSA: The real shame is committing adultery, Pastors!”
Not telling is simply lying by another name
“You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father’s desires…When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies.” -John 8:44a,c, NIV “Not telling” (about the adulterous affair) is simply “lying” by another name. I think Satan has a heyday with … Continue reading “Not telling is simply lying by another name”
On “a break?” Really?!
You cry out, “Why doesn’t the Lord accept my worship?” I’ll tell you why! Because the Lord witnessed the vows you and your wife made when you were young. But you have been unfaithful to her, though she remained your faithful partner, the wife of your marriage vows. -Malachi 2:14, NLT Did your cheater ever talk about needing “a … Continue reading “On “a break?” Really?!”
Why did she “HAVE TO” leave you?
“You gotta ask yourself, ‘Why did she HAVE TO leave you?’” – Cheater Apologist This is a loaded question. The person stating this is engaging in a reasoning fallacy and attempting to trap you in a less than favorable light. If you even attempt to answer the question, you will lose. No good way to … Continue reading “Why did she “HAVE TO” leave you?”