Forget the Script! Burn it.

The Christian family script that I was taught as a teenager goes something like this:

Meet a Christian. Marry a Christian. Have children and build a life together ,forever. Then you will be blessed and considered wonderful by church folks.

But that script is out of the reach of many faithful Christians. In fact, it was ruthlessly stolen from the grasps of some–like myself–who married unrepentant cheaters.

While I do not have problems with Christians who live out that script, I DO have problems with teaching that script as the gold standard of godliness for all.

Life is messier than that. Teaching that those who follow this script are first class Christians is to perpetuate a lie that those who do not are second class Christians. That is downright cruel.

The reality is that my two greatest blessings have come about outsides of that script:

1. Munchkin was born to a single mother. I cannot imagine life without that vivacious, social girl. She is a bright light in my world and brings me, her daddy, great joy!

2. Mrs. DM is my second wife. The script would disallow a second marriage. But I am SO grateful for her in my life as a partner. She is a woman I can trust as opposed to my first wife.

Divorcing a cheater was not the end of my walk with God. It actually led to a life filled with greater blessings than before and led to greater ministry opportunities for me as well.