Just another day five years out…
I used to dread the anniversary of my divorce. But this year it came and passed without me noticing.
It was just another day five years later.
I was too busy with my new life to be bothered by what is now ancient history…so to speak.
I share this as an encouragement. Things do change with some effort.
That said, this did not happen over night. I had to heal and get to the point of accepting that the injustices I experienced did indeed happen. And I did NOT deserve them in anyway.
Most importantly, I had to get to a place where I accepted and loved myself the way Jesus loved me. In other words, I needed to make peace with my quirkiness and embrace it–introvert, cat-loving tendencies and all.
That had to happen prior to meeting Mrs. DM, actually.
I am a strong believer faithful spouses ought to wait to date until they know their high value and are willing to walk away when deal-breakers happen (Yes, that also means you have to have deal-breakers, too).
Thank you!
When you say you had to learn to love yourself quirkiness, intovertness and all – do you mean that you struggled with blaming yourself for your ex’s rejection? I’m 5 years out and have definitely been blessed by God since the divorce. I still have this anxiety about it having been my fault due to my quirks and faults. I was a dedicated loving wife (I am again too!). I have to co parent with my ex still, so he’s still in the air so to speak. How did you do it, day to day?
Good question for a post. Stay tuned…
Here’s the post: http://www.divorceminister.com/mailbag-learning-embrace-ones-quirkiness-mean/