“Thou shalt not commit adultery.”
-Exodus 20:14, KJV
Adultery is…
“voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and someone other than his or her lawful spouse.”
-from dictionary.com
Cheaters are all about making up their own private definitions of adultery or cheating.
Those “definitions” exist to “excuse” inexcusable, sinful behavior.
A cheater might say such pathetic things like…
“It wasn’t adultery because we were living in different places at the time.”
“It wasn’t adultery because I had filed the divorce paperwork.”
“It wasn’t adultery because I practiced coitus interruptus.”
Figuring out whether or not an act was adultery is not all that difficult. You just need to answer two very simple questions:
1. Are you legally married?
2. Did you have sexual intercourse* with someone who is not your legal spouse?
If you answer yes to both questions, you have committed adultery. The rest is just noise and lies you are telling yourself to avoid facing the cold hard fact of your sin.
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*Even if it was not sexual intercourse, sexual activity with someone other than your spouse is still sexual immorality. Engaging in such behavior is being unfaithful sexually. Matthew 19:9 lists sexual immorality as grounds for a legitimate divorce among God’s people.
**A version of this post ran previously.
And NOTHING justifies adultrey. My xh referred to his serial cheating as “mistakes” and said only God knew his heart and that he was sorry every time. WHAT!!!! Like you said always making up their own definitions of adultery. He also didn’t count it as cheating if he didn’t go “all the way”. Dancing, kissing etc with strangers was I guess missed opportunity or Fail in his sick mind. Unfixable IMO
He is right that only God knows his heart… BUT we know what he DID was wrong and sinful even if he claims otherwise. You do not need to have access to another’s heart to judge their behavior as sinfully wrong.