“And all his sons and all his daughters rose up to comfort him; but he refused to be comforted….”
-Genesis 37:35, KJV
In two days, it will have been seven years since my divorce was officially made final.
Hard to believe it has been that long.
God has transformed my life since that sad day; now, it is a mere memory. Yet it is and always will be a memory.
The reality of my divorce becoming final was a shock.
I was engaging in some hard-core, Christian denial up to that point. My hope was God was going to do a miracle and change my (now ex) wife’s heart so that she repented. That was not the miracle God had for me.
Even knowing the divorce decree was coming did not change the fact the shock was still strong. The reality is different than the anticipation.
My encouragement to those of you heading toward such a date is to make sure you have a plan in place for that day. Make sure you have friends to lean upon on that day. It is a hard one.
I am thankful God did not work the miracle I was hoping for on that day seven years ago.
If He had, I would have missed out on Mrs. DM and Munchkin. Today, Munchkin is the laughter of my soul; and Mrs. DM is the insightful, fun friend that I always needed.
God is always faithful; never forget that!
In this post’s verse, it was dark when Jacob learned of Joseph’s “death,” yet God did not let the story end there. He had BIG plans being made in the darkness of Jacob’s grief.
When I went to court and the judge finalized the case I broke down. I sobbed in front of everyone. I had two years to prepare and I knew it was coming but still cried. My lawyer asked me if I wanted to be “free as a bird” and I couldn’t make sense of it. I never wanted to be there in the first place!
Yeah, my lawyer congratulated me on the day. I didn’t feel like celebrating that day.
I’m so very glad you are able to proclaim God’s good plan for your life after your terrible divorce. I have to say though, I’m struggling to hold on to that belief for myself. I sure hope and pray God has a good plan for me; but I’m doubtful. After being with my “Christian “ husband for over four decades, I now find myself reluctantly divorced from a unrepentant, remorseless cheater. I am broken-hearted and my life is now hard, lonely, and filled with sadness. I hate to doubt God, but in this stage of my life, I know it’s going to take a miracle for me to find that “laughter for my soul”,
This article is timely for me. My story was covered by you, sir in June (Dear DM, she says she wants to be happy), so I won’t go into it now, but my divorce will be final on December 26, 2019.
21 years (nearly 22) gone, because she was unfaithful. I have full custody of our two boys. It still hurts so much and I’m anticipating the final day with dread.
It is one day. You can do this. Make sure you have friends to lean on that day. Things do get better!