The gift of a heartbreak.
Having one’s heart broken by a cheater is not fun. It hurts A LOT!!
Yet, a gift is present even in that pain:
That gift is a reminder that you HAVE a heart! You attached. That is a good thing.
People who do not attach to their partners are dangerous people. We are meant to care about the loyalty, honesty, and fidelity of our partners.
That is why it hurts when those things are violated by them.
As someone once said, “We only grieve what we love.”
Another way to rephrase that:
“Only those who have hearts can experience heartbreak.”
I don’t know about you, but I am glad I have a heart even though pain comes with it.
Another severe mercy I have found is that it makes me cry out to God like I never have before. I want Him to heal my broken heart, and I believe that He can and that He will. But until He does, I cry out to Him daily for His help. I am living what Jesus said to do – “Knock and keep knocking”. Also, “Pray and faint not”. I cannot afford to faint, for then my grief would swallow me up, and I don’t want that. I want life and light and to be unburdened of the grief that I constantly feel in my heart when I remember my wife’s spectacular betrayal of all we had built together over the course of three decades.
A major part of that healing journey is being honest with ourselves and God about our pain. Knocking on God’s door is certainly encouraged! I agree this is a gift, and the other side is a furnace-blasted strong faith as you discover God’s faithfulness. That’s been my experience, at least.