The LORD said to Samuel, “How long will you mourn for Saul, since I have rejected him as king over Israel? Fill your horn with oil and be on your way….”
-I Samuel 16:1a, NIV
The Tragedy of the Ending
Just because we have accepted the end of the marriage due to the adultery does not mean such an ending is anything less than tragic. It is certainly a tragedy.
Who in their right mind ever wanted their marriage to end in such a traumatic and treacherous way?
Like the Prophet Samuel anointing King Saul, we all started our marriages with hope and promise. If not, then we would not have bothered in exchanging solemn vows before God and fellow humans.
But promise turned into a tragic ending.
I am a firm believer that it did not “have to” end this way. Choices were made. That is the cheater made choices, marriage-slaying ones.
That is in part why the ending hurts so much. It was avoidable if only the cheater had lived up to her vows to remain faithful.
Yet, like Samuel, a time comes to move on from the flawed person. They had their chance and blew it by their choices and actions.
Thank you for this reminder. I needed this today. I am barely 3 months into my separation from my husband of 16 years. He committed adultery and that is unacceptable. Some days are ok but other days are worse! Today was a way worse them. I focus on being thankful to my King for what he has provided thus far. Again thank you for this reminder!
Thank you for this today I have been really struggling with this recently. I am 5 months past D-day and about to give birth to my 2nd child with my STBX. I did not imagine when I said my vows I would be 6 months pregnant and filing for divorce. This blog has helped me so much so far. Thank you for telling it like it is, and showing us faithful spouses that we are not to blame for this situation we find ourselves in.
So glad you have been encouraged and help by the website. That’s why I keep it going. May God give you an extra measure of strength and peace during this trying time!
I also am thankful for this reminder. My divorce was final this past Tuesday after 25 years of marriage. There has been so much loss since he revealed his adulterous affair 2 years ago; right now I am exhausted it takes so much to work, plan meals other daily duties. I need to learn to find 1 thing a day and just praise God over and over for that. This process is so difficult for the faithful spouse ( God knows I wouldn’t wish this on anyone).
Thanks for the encouragement and insight.
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